Apparently (according to my wife) I’m a bit of a control
freak. If she’s right, and I’m not a reliable judge on the subject, my control
freakery goes into overdrive when it comes to time. I admit that I do have
something of a problem with time; some might say it’s an obsession but whatever
it is it’s definitely a problem. My problem with time is that I do have a
tendency to be ruled by it; I have a mortal fear of being late. Shakespeare
said “Better three hours too soon than a minute too late” and while I agree
with him in principle, even I think that three hours is a bit strong; an hour
is probably about right.
I’m not joking, I have been known to arrive an hour early
for just about everything you can name because of my terror at the thought of
being even one minute late. I hate the idea of going to a football match or a
film or a concert and missing the first few minutes, this results in me kicking
my heels waiting for whatever it is to start. That’s not to say that I haven’t
ever been late, and sometimes it has been my fault, which I find absolutely
mortifying. As far as I am concerned, if I’ve agreed to be somewhere at say,
ten o’clock then the latest I would expect to arrive would be about ten minutes
to ten. Not everyone subscribes to this protocol however, it is perhaps almost de rigeur for some people to arrive late
and while they may call it fashionably late, I would have a very different word
for it.
Basically the world is divided into the Punctual and the
Tardy. Within each of these groups there are sub-groups so we have:
The Obsessively Punctual
This group of people have a
pathological mania with time. They will arrive at airports two hours before the
check in desk opens, let alone two hours before the plane leaves. They will
arrive at railway stations early enough to catch the train before the train
before the one they need to catch to get to their destination very early
indeed. These people will arrive for a dental appointment with enough time to
spare to read all of the magazines in the waiting room. These people will
arrive at work progressively earlier and earlier, to the extent that some
people think that they live in the office. These people will be outside shops
waiting for them to open, outside theatres waiting for the doors to open, not
because they are making sure of their place in the queue, but simply because
they allowed an hour for a five minute journey and are now standing in the cold
and the rain while their more tardy cousins are still in bed. I am one of these people.
The Healthily Punctual
These people have a healthy
respect for time but refuse to take things to extremes. They will be found in
airport check in lines a sensible half hour or so before the desk closes, they
will wait two or three minutes for a train that gets them where they are going
with a tolerable margin of error. They are the people at their desk at a
sensible time in the morning. They are the people that sit next to me five
minutes before the curtain goes up when I’ve already had time to count the
fibres in the back of the seat in front of me (twice). How I envy these people!
The Healthily Tardy
There isn’t much to chose between
these people and the Healthily Punctual, except that they do cut things a bit
fine sometimes. They will occasionally miscalculate and have to catch a later
train; they will sometimes arrive somewhat breathless in the office at five
past nine, they will reach the airport
check in desk puffing and panting just as the attendant is about to close. They
will be the last on the plane, they will squeeze through the closing doors on
the train as it is about to pull away from the station. For the Obsessively
Punctual, or even for the Healthily Punctual, travelling with these people can
sometimes be a white knuckle ride, a will we or won’t we experience.
The Habitually Tardy
These people can be relied upon
to be late or at best have their more punctual colleagues and friends fretting
that they will be. These are the people who arrive at work late more often than
not. These are the people who arrive at meetings fifteen minutes after the
appointed time and are surprised that everyone is waiting for them. These
people always have a reason for being late and it’s never their fault. The train was late. Well there has been heavy
snow overnight, didn’t you notice and think it may be a good idea to leave a
little earlier? I missed my bus, yes because you left the house late. These
people believe that because it should take an hour to get from A to B, it will
take an hour. They don’t factor in any contingency and always assume the best
case scenario. In extreme cases these people think that their lateness is
endearing; it isn’t. Some senior managers have a tendency to be late,
subconsciously they probably think it’s justified because their time is more
precious; this isn’t always true. The Habitually Tardy don’t get stressed about
being late however, it is everyone else, everyone who is waiting for them that
gets stressed (well I do).
Unfortunately, the Obsessively
Punctual also stress everyone else out too, I know because I do it to other
people (my long suffering spouse especially). I know that she understands that
when we have a real deadline like a plane to catch, there is some justification
in my anxiety to get there on time. I do accept that on some occasions, when it
really doesn’t matter about the time, the artificial deadlines I create in my
own mind are unreasonable and unrealistic. I’ve tried to fight it, I’ve tried
to be more laid back and sometimes it works (for about a nano second, then
we’re off on the spiral into nervousness). I think that I am probably too old
to change now, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.
I suppose my obsession with
punctuality goes back to childhood and my early days at work. As a child I
seemed to be forever waiting for friends who were late or never turned up at
all. I would anxiously pull back the curtains and peer down the road waiting
for someone when we had arranged to go somewhere and on more than one occasion
I would end up going wherever it was alone, arriving in the nick of time.
Nonchalantly, my friend would later tell me that they had not been able to go;
in those pre-mobile phone days (in fact we didn’t even have a landline when I
was young) it wasn’t possible for them to let me know. In my early days at work
being late was considered a particular offense. We would have to sign in each
morning and at 8.55 each day the signing in book would be taken to the
manager’s office and the letter “L” would be written in red ink against the
names of those who had not yet arrived. There was a stigma over the walk of
shame to the manager’s office and the red letter.
So Ladies and Gentlemen, I was
going to propose an Eighth Deadly sin; Tardiness but re-reading what I’ve
written, I’m not sure whether there isn’t a ninth, Obsessive Punctuality!
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